How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage

This is a popular treatment of Attachment theory as applied to marriage by a husband who trained as a pastor and his wife who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. There is a workbook built into the book and a separate work book to take you deeper. They have produced a DVD for a small group interaction. They look at common patterns in relating that are rooted in the imprint of how we learned to love in our families of origin. The ability to comfort others, speak what you are feeling and be present with them in the pain are basic skills that many of us should have gotten in at home but it did not.